I'm a processor. I like to talk things through. With lots of people. It's they way I deal with things. My husband pointed this out to me one time, and he's so right.
Miscarriage and fertility is not something many people talk about openly. When we first found out about the miscarriage I said I wasn't go to tell anyone, for many reasons, which I'll get into later. But I'm also not a good liar and when one friend asked about my 'stomach bug and why I cancelled coming to a party' it all came pouring out. And each time I talked about it, I found more love and support, and that's what everyone needs.
I'm also finding that so many people just care so much about me and want to know what's happening and where we are in our journey (again, wise friends helped me see this). Although I'm a processor, it's hard to call every single person and fill them in. I'm writing this blog for three purposes:
1-As we've established, I'm a processor, writing things down is another way for me to process
2-I had a friend tell me she hoped I'd give her updates as I feel fit. This blog will allow friends and family can follow our journey, if they choose
3-Even more so, I hope that someone who needs this blog stumbles upon and reads it and realizes they are not alone, no matter how 'special and unique' their journey may be seeming, there are others of us.
If you already know all the pre-pregnancy/miscarriage part of the story and are here to get caught up with the fertility side skip to ____________ (feels kind of like choose your own adventure, huh? :) )
Love and some pineapple core
~CP
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